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TOP 5 WAYS TO LOSE CREDIBILITY

As women, we often work very hard to earn credibility, and once earned, it takes skill, confidence and a demonstration of integrity to maintain it. But as long as it takes to earn credibility, sometimes it may only take a moment to lose it. Women encounter many barriers as they move up the chain to success, but we don’t need loss of credibility to be one of those factors.
Here are the Top 5 Ways to Lose Credibility

1. Say Yes then take back your Yes

As people pleasers by nature, women often tend to say “yes” more than “no.” But if we say yes to taking on a task and then back out we can quickly ruin our credibility. Likewise, if we say yes to taking on a task and then half-ass the task, people’s perceptions of our ability and performance levels change and we lose credibility.

The Fix
Evaluate and then react. First, create a list of your goals and the strategy you need to put in place in order to accomplish these goals. When asked to take on a role or task, take time to process the request and see if it is in line with your direction. Assess in which ways taking on this task could help you or hurt you. Do the benefits of taking on this task outweigh saying no, or is it more beneficial for you to say no and focus on what is already on your plate? From here, then respond with a yes or no.

2. Never be Wrong
We all make mistakes, even credible people, but it is in the way that you handle yourself when you make a mistake that plays a role in credibility. When you place blame on others or find excuses for a situation, you lose credibility and respect from those around you.

The Fix
Own up to your mistakes and immediately follow it with a plan and solution to fix the issue(s). Apologize if needed and be genuine in your apology. Take mindful steps moving forward to not repeat the mistake.

3. Keep your Accomplishments a Secret
Just because people see you as a credible source doesn’t mean you stop sharing your successes. By keeping all your hard word quiet, you risk losing credibility more so because of the whole “out of sight out of mind” concept. And, don’t think you are bragging by sharing your accomplishments, sharing your hard work is what will help you advance and continue to enhance your credibility.

The Fix
While you don’t have to race around the office shouting, “Congrats to me, I just answered a phone call and sent off an email” you should share with co-workers and managers goals obtained, major barriers hurdled, and progress or milestones completed within projects. Highlighting your successes in a humble and genuine manner will keep people abreast of your motivation, determination and passion for the company or task at hand.

4. Take your Time with People’s Concerns
True or false? Now that you have earned your credibility, people don’t have to be as much of a priority as they once were. False! One way to lose credibility is to dismiss people or consistently put people’s needs on the back burner. By dismissing people, not taking care for their concerns, or making people feel like they are not important or needed is a sure fire way to burn bridges and lose credibility.

The Fix
Be empathetic and understanding at times. Show people that they matter to you whether you are moving up the chain or not. While I encourage you to retreat and take time to process people’s requests before reacting, you can still communicate with people by giving them time frames of when they can expect to hear from you and by acknowledging their requests to some degree. What may not be of concern to you, may be of significant importance to another.

5. Don’t Practice what you Preach

Once you become a credible source, in order to maintain that credibility, you must do what say. You can’t just tell other people to act or be a certain way and then hold yourself to a different standard. When you don’t practice what you preach you set you integrity and character on the line and when these two factors are compromised so is your credibility.

The Fix
Well, this is an easy answer, practice what you preach. If you want to keep your credibility, be sure that the tips and advice you share with the world, you heed that advice, too.

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Humble Leadership

There is nothing worse than a leader making people feel “below” him. Often the leaders who have the mentality of people being “below” him are the ones with their own demons to battle at night. In almost every business there is a hierarchy. That hierarchy demonstrates the structural position of how the company operates and communicates, but that hierarchy does not demonstrate who is a better or more valuable person in life. Often it is the people who are not laterally at the top of the hierarchy that truly make the company a success. These people believe in you, your systems and engage in the labor that allow you to work on the business each day. It is then most important that a leader understands his role is to motivate, inspire and be humble.

But what makes a leader humble? A humble leader recognizes that people work interconnectedly, from all levels of an organizational hierarchy to get a job completed and a business to run successfully. A humble leader believes that people other than himself have amazing ideas that should be valued and explored. And, with upmost significance, a humble leader consistently reminds himself of where he came from and acknowledges the people that have helped him along the way.
If you have moved up in life or business along your journey, there are good chances that at some point someone made you feel inferior to them. Take a moment and remember that feeling. That one feeling sometimes has the power to minimize a person’s confidence, increase his self-doubt, or stir up anger that they then bring into their homes where there are children and a partner. As you make others feel inferior, you are doing a direct injustice to yourself. You lose respect from people and you decrease productivity in your workplace.

Whether you find yourself religious, spiritual or neither, live out the passage in Proverbs 27:1 : “Do not boast about tomorrow, For you do not know what a day may bring forth. Let another praise you, and not your own mouth.” In order to be humble make sure that you are letting your team of life (family, friends, co-workers or employees) know what you are grateful for each day. Let people know why you appreciate them. At the end of each day personally reflect on the things that you were most grateful for. Be sure to give yourself credit for what you worked for, but also reflect on what people did to help you. This will keep your level of humility high.

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WHY THE HECK ARE YOU DOING THAT?

Why are you at work today? If the sole reason is because you need to pay rent and buy food, you are probably not completely satisfied with your work. In fact, you might be the office gossiper or the negative Nancy of the office.
Why do people leave a job that they are making 80K per year at with great benefits, only to branch out on their own, risking their families, income and sanity? Perhaps, they can’t stand working for someone else, they can’t stand not living in line with their values and/or they want to change the world.

Most people think those who venture outside of societies norms are crazy or are setting themselves up for failure. But whether you are making a leap in your business or personal life, you have to realize that doing things the same way day in and day out is not only boring, but that is the real risk.

I am not saying to quit your job today, or to up and move to your dream tropical island in the Caribbean, but after a calculated risk and research about what you are doing, it might be worth it.
But why is there such a risk in leaving a job or up and moving to that Island?
People don’t always know why they are doing what they are doing. You might know what you are doing and how you are going to do it, but you don’t know why you are doing it. Once you can identify the why, then you can determine if the leap is the right thing to do.
Creating a plan to make a leap isn’t the most important aspect to changing something, it is actually determining the why. Why isn’t the plan. The plan is in the what and how of what you are about to do, the why will stem from your values and beliefs.

In business, the theory is that if you want to be successful, you have to know why you are doing something, and it can’t be, “because I need money.” Money is a result, it is not a why. A why for a business might be “My dream is to reduce the stress in the American household, so that families can have more opportunities to enjoy each other.” This doesn’t say much about what I do or how I do it, but it is why I do what I do. Then, people who believe in my belief systems and values will support what it is I sell, because they too, personally, believe in the why. This leads to success. If all I have is a what and a how for my business, I am setting myself up for failure. Everyone has a plan, not everyone has a why. This is the reason that those with a why are often successful.
When it comes to your personal life, you have to know why you are doing something, too. If you are chasing an end result like money, fame or pleasure, you might be acting outside of your beliefs and find that you are never really feeling that “success” feeling. Besides, an end result, like money, is an outcome, not a why.

If you are doing something to be spiteful, hurtful, or vengeful, it might not be a good idea to make that leap in your personal life. Stop working to create only a plan, and first define why you are doing something, then work your way out from there. If you want to make a major life change so that you can regain a positive and healthy mindset, you are on the right track. Beginning something with a negative why can result in a personal failure, whereas beginning something with a positive why that follows your belief systems generates more of a chance of success.

This week’s challenge is to identify why you are doing what you are doing in business and your personal life.

Reflection and Tip: Are there any challenges, risks or leaps you want to take in the near future? Before you take the leap make sure that you have a strong why behind what you are about to do.


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